Sexuality, privacy, and professional safety

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Written by Emma Swift

Emma Swift is a Vice Principal and former trust-wide subject lead for a multi academy trust, specialising in science and initial teacher training. She is the subject lead for Physics for the National Institute of Teaching and Education.

On being visible, being private, and deciding what to carry at work

For some teachers, sexuality is something that barely enters their working life.

For others, it is something they think about constantly not because they want to, but because it shapes how visible, safe, or exposed they feel at work.

This difference matters.

Heteronormativity and the illusion of “not sharing”

Many heterosexual teachers will say they don’t talk about their sexuality at work and genuinely believe it.

But mentioning a spouse, a partner, a weekend plan, or a family photo on a desk is already a form of disclosure. It’s simply one that aligns with what students and colleagues expect, so it passes unnoticed.

For LGBTQ+ teachers, the same casual references can feel loaded. A simple pronoun choice can suddenly feel like a decision with consequences.

This isn’t about oversensitivity. It’s about risk awareness.

Being “out” is not a single decision

There is a persistent narrative that being out is an all-or-nothing state: either you are open, or you are hiding.

The reality is far more nuanced.

You may be:

  • Out to colleagues but not students
  • Out in one school but not another
  • Open in some contexts and private in others
  • Comfortable one year and cautious the next

None of these positions are dishonest.

They are strategic.

Teaching is not a neutral workplace. It is shaped by:

  • Community attitudes
  • School culture
  • Leadership support
  • Student maturity
  • Media narratives

Your safety and wellbeing sit within all of that.

You do not owe visibility to anyone

There can be subtle and sometimes explicit – pressure on LGBTQ+ teachers to be visible “for the students”.

Representation matters.

But representation should never come at the cost of personal safety.

No individual teacher is responsible for fixing systemic inequality.

You are allowed to prioritise:

  • Emotional safety
  • Job security
  • Mental health
  • Professional focus

Choosing privacy is not a failure of courage.

It is an assessment of context.

The classroom is not a neutral space

Students talk. Families talk. Communities talk. What is said in a classroom rarely stays there. This is not paranoia – it is experience. Before sharing anything personal, it’s worth asking:

  • How might this be repeated?
  • How might it be reframed?
  • How might it be misunderstood?

Once information enters the student sphere, control over it is lost. That doesn’t mean you should never share; no it means you should share deliberately.

Managing questions about relationships

Students may ask:

“Do you have a husband/wife?”

“Are you married?”

“Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?”

You are not required to correct assumptions. You are not required to disclose.

Neutral responses can include:

“I keep my personal life private.”

“That’s not something I discuss with students.”

“I’m here as your teacher.”

Some teachers choose gender-neutral language.

Some choose redirection.

Some choose openness.

The key is that you decide, not the moment.

Professional safety is not the same as secrecy

There is an important distinction between secrecy and privacy.

  • Secrecy is driven by fear.
  • Privacy is driven by choice.

You can be open with trusted colleagues and private with students. You can advocate for inclusion without narrating your life. You can support LGBTQ+ students without positioning yourself as evidence.

Your professionalism is not diminished by boundaries.

Who gets asked to do the work

In many schools, inclusion work doesn’t get distributed evenly. It often lands on the people most affected by it. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve been asked to deliver the “LGBT assembly” or lead something for LGBT History Month. As a senior leader, I’m always willing to do an assembly that’s part of the role. But there’s an extra layer here that often goes unacknowledged.

When you are the one standing in front of a room talking about LGBTQ+ lives, you are also the one absorbing the reaction. The looks. The comments. The atmosphere. And when students express strong views which are sometimes openly homophobic, it is often the person most directly affected who is expected to manage that moment.

That carries a cost.

I still remember, around sixteen years ago, sitting in an assembly where a heterosexual male teacher spoke about Alan Turing his work, and what was done to him. It stirred something in me I wasn’t used to feeling in school. At the time, hearing LGBTQ+ lives acknowledged at all felt rare.

That moment stayed with me. And part of why it mattered was that it didn’t come from someone who had to carry the personal weight of it. There’s a difference between choosing to share and being positioned as the one who should. Even smaller moments of coming out can carry that same weight. Not just the big, defining conversations – sometimes it’s the quieter ones that stay with you.

I remember telling one of my A Level classes while working in North London. I wasn’t sure how they would respond, particularly given the strength of religious belief in the room. I had prepared myself for discomfort. Instead, they were warm, protective, and thoughtful. It meant a great deal.

Sometime after I left, one of those students wrote to me. She said she wanted to go into teaching and wrote: “I thought I wanted to be the teacher I needed. Then I realised I wanted to be the person I had.”

That stayed with me.

It’s also important to say that these experiences aren’t the same for everyone. As a lesbian, I’m aware that I may be navigating less immediate risk than some of my gay male colleagues. Context matters too – subjects, age groups, school culture. A PE teacher, for example, may face a very different set of challenges to a science teacher.

All of this shapes who feels able to speak, and when. Which is why inclusion work shouldn’t quietly default to the same people, again and again.

When schools talk about inclusion

If a school claims to value inclusion, that should show up in:

  • Clear policies
  • Leadership behaviour
  • Responses to incidents
  • How staff are supported, not showcased

Be wary of environments where inclusion is performative, but protection is absent.

A genuinely inclusive school does not pressure staff into visibility. It ensures that if staff are visible, they are safe.

A final thought

Sexuality at work is not about honesty versus hiding. It’s about context, consent, and control. You are allowed to change your mind. You are allowed to reassess. You are allowed to protect yourself. Professional safety is not selfish.

It is what allows you to keep doing the work well and to keep yourself intact while you do it.


Everyday Sexism: A Powerful Call to Action from Laura Bates - What Schools Can No Longer Ignore

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Written by Hannah Wilson

Founder and Director of the Belonging Effect (formerly Diverse Educators).

When Laura Bates, founder of the Everyday Sexism Project, addressed the room of boarding school headteachers and senior leaders, her message was not abstract, ideological, or optional. It was urgent, and it was evidence-based. 

Drawing on what is now one of the largest datasets of its kind – over 250,000 testimonies, many from children – Bates laid out a reality that schools are already part of, whether they recognise it or not.

This Is Not a “Girls’ Issue”

One of the clearest points: sexism is not about being “anti-boys.” It is instead about the ecosystem young people are growing up in. Rigid gender stereotypes harm everyone – shaping body image pressures for both girls and boys, narrowing subject choices, and reinforcing harmful expectations about relationships, power, and identity. 

The idea of a “gender war” or “battle of the sexes” is not only misleading, it actively prevents progress. Instead, Bates reframed the issue: this is about culture, not conflict.

The Scale and Subtlety of the Problem

Some statistics that she shared were stark and made me feel really uncomfortable, despite being familiar with most of them:

  • 86% of women in the UK report experiencing sexual harassment
  • 72% of women report sexism in the classroom
  • 71% of 16-year-old girls report being called “slut” or “slag” on a weekly basis

But just as important is what Bates called “subtle sexism.”

This is the quiet shaping of expectations:

  • which subjects feel “appropriate”
  • how physical spaces exclude women and girls
  • whose voices are taken seriously
  • how authority  – especially female authority – is undermined

These are not isolated incidents: they are cumulative; they are structured; they are reinforced through media, advertising, peer culture, and increasingly, algorithms.

Language Matters More Than We Admit

The distinction between “groping” and “sexual harassment” is not semantic – it is cultural. So too is the shift from focusing on victims to naming perpetrators, and from passive bystanders to active upstanders. Language shapes what young people think is normal, tolerable, or reportable. If we minimise behaviours in how we speak about them, we normalise them in practice.

As a former English teacher, and now DEIB trainer, the power of language and our language choices are something I think about a lot and explore with our clients regularly.  

The Online World Is Not Separate From School

A major theme was the widening gap between adults and young people in digital spaces. Most educators and parents are not digital natives. Yet, their students and their children are.

This gap matters because the online environment is not neutral – it is actively shaping attitudes:

  • Influencers like Andrew Tate have amassed billions of views
  • Algorithmic pathways can lead users toward extreme misogynistic content in minutes
  • Exposure to pornography is now commonly reported around age 13

Bates referenced the “manosphere” –  a network of online communities where ideas such as “AWALT” (“all women are like this”) circulate and harden. This is not fringe content. It is mainstream, accessible, and often gamified.

A New Frontier: AI and Exploitation

If that was not enough for us to deal with in our schools and in our homes, then the emerging technologies that are accelerating the problem are the next challenge we face:

  • Deepfake and “nudify” tools enabling new forms of abuse
  • AI “girlfriends” reshaping expectations of relationships
  • Gamified, exploitative systems rewarding harmful behaviour
  • Poorly regulated virtual spaces (including metaverses) lacking safeguarding measures

The direction of travel is clear and really concerning. I am conscious that I am not a parent, I am no longer a headteacher and I have recently stood down from being a trustee who led on safeguarding, but I care deeply about our sector, about our society and about our young people. So sitting in a room of school leaders I felt the palpable weight of responsibility on their shoulders as they began to process the enormity of what is rapidly attacking our schools and our homes.

The Youngest Are Most at Risk

Perhaps the most sobering insight: the youngest generation is not the most protected – it is the most exposed. Grooming, radicalisation, and exploitation are no longer rare nor exceptional risks. They are structural features of the environments young people inhabit – and schools sit at the intersection of all of this.

So What Can Schools Do?

Bates did not leave the room without direction but offered some practical advice and signposting.

Effective responses are not one-off assemblies or reactive policies. They are cultural and sustained:

  • Start early: challenge gender stereotypes in early childhood
  • Explore openly: normalise discussion of relationships, consent, and respect
  • Intervene consistently: address language, behaviour, and culture in real time
  • Encourage allyship: shift from bystanders to upstanders
  • Support staff: particularly where female authority is undermined
  • Involve parents: bridging the digital knowledge gap is essential

This is where she signposted organisations such as Tender, Lifting Limits, Beyond Equality, and Bold Voices are already doing critical work alongside schools.

A Cultural Shift, Not a Checklist

Perhaps the most important takeaway is this: sexism does not operate in a vacuum. It is built on foundations – early stereotypes, repeated messages, normalised behaviours.

Which means the solution is not a single intervention, but a process of deconstruction:

  • recognising the patterns
  • naming them
  • and creating genuine alternatives for young people

This is not about removing choice – it is about creating it.

The Question That Remains

Bates left the audience with an implicit challenge to consider: not whether schools should respond – but whether they are prepared for what is already here, and what is coming next. She held up a mirror to remind us that the culture shaping young people today is moving faster than most institutions, so ignoring it is no longer a neutral act.

BSA – thanks for creating the space at the annual conference for this talk (and Gaelle thanks for the invitation to be in the room). Laura – thanks for the clarity and the data that you brought to the conversation.


Does your belonging culture include every Generation?

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Written by Alex Atherton

Alex Atherton is an award-winning speaker, trainer and consultant who focuses on Gen Z recruitment & retention and leading multigenerational workplaces. He is the author of The Snowflake Myth: Explaining Gen Z in the Workplace and Beyond. He is also a former secondary school headteacher.

Age ranges are growing across UK workplaces.

This is largely because the proportion of workers aged 65 and over has more than doubled in the last two decades.

A four generation workplace with an age range of fifty, if not sixty, years has become increasingly common. At the younger end Generation Z now account for over a quarter of the workforce, with that figure set to exceed a third globally by 2030.

At no point in modern history have so many different generational experiences been present in the same building, on the same Teams call, or trying to agree on what a productive working culture looks like.

Concept of generations

The concept of generations is useful in terms of analysing outlooks and attitudes over time. Fifteen to twenty years is long enough for there to have been enough economic, social, political and technological change for that exercise to be worthwhile.

But we are all the same species, and there is no guillotine between them. Whilst the concept is useful it is also limited, and generational stereotypes serve no one. Differences within generations are far bigger than those between, and I strongly recommend you treat everyone as individuals first with no generational label.

Analysing the impact of change over time can offer clues when understanding your workforce, and therefore what needs to be done to ensure everyone feels they belong.

I want to differentiate between ‘age’ and ‘generations’. The former is, of course, a protected characteristic. The latter is cohort-based. Opinions and outlooks may change for individuals over time, but there is something about those created in the formative years which stick with people in different ways and to various extents.

It would be an interesting tribunal case that sought to separate the two fully. My argument is organisations who consider the full range of their age diversity to be a considerable asset are in a better position to thrive, and considering generational perspective is part of that exercise.

This is the set of names and dates that I use. You may find others elsewhere, which is fine as it reinforces the idea that these are not hard and fast:

  • Silent Generation (1925-1945: 81-100 years old)
  • Baby Boomers (1946-1964: 62-80 years old)
  • Generation X (1965-1980: 46-61 years old)
  • Millennials (1981-1996: 30-45 years old)
  • Generation Z (1997-2012: 14-29 years old)
  • Generation Alpha (2013-2028: max 13 years old)

The snowflake problem

I came into this topic area as a reaction to the youngest generation currently in the workplace, Gen Z, being labelled as ‘snowflakes’.

In my book The Snowflake Myth, I argue that the stereotypes routinely applied to Gen Z  (lazy, unreliable, apathetic etc) tell us more about a failure to understand them than about who they actually are. 

Gen Z’s academic record is off the scale compared to all who came before them. They are more likely than any previous generation to work nights and weekends for higher pay. They are the most diverse generation we have ever seen, and the most vocal advocates for equity, diversity, inclusion and belonging in the workplace.

Calling them snowflakes is not a neutral observation. It is an exclusion.

But you know this, otherwise you would not be on this website. So what to do?

Belonging Is not age-selective

Let me tell you something else you already know. When belonging is present, engagement rises, wellbeing is protected and performance improves. When it is absent, the damage is real.

Does your belonging culture extend to the oldest and youngest people in your organisation?

Gen Z in the workplace will tell you, should you ask them, that they are watching. They notice whether the DEIB commitments on your website show up in how decisions are made and who gets a seat at which table. They notice whether authenticity is genuinely embedded in your culture, or whether the sign behind reception is performative. They notice whether any effort has been made to understand their experience, or whether they are simply expected to adapt.

The Boomers (and Silents too) will also give you their feedback as to whether they belong or now feel marginalised, but you may need to work a little harder to capture their voice. It is too tempting to consider that your belonging culture is in the right place because a clear majority say they belong. It needs to work at both ends of your age range.

What multi-generational belonging looks like

The good news is that this is less complicated than it sounds. It requires curiosity more than strategy.

It means seeking genuine feedback from colleagues, and on an ongoing basis rather than just at onboarding. 

It means recognising that a generation which grew up collaborating online, co-creating content and working simultaneously on shared documents brings real and underutilised strengths to any team. 

It means deliberately noticing what is happening at the edges, and across every group. That includes noticing that the older colleagues who had their eyes wide open as the new recruits refused to stay late or take work home started wanting the same themselves. What used to be ‘Gen Z demands’ has now extended elsewhere.

It means understanding that cross-generational collaboration is not a nice idea for an away day. It is about driving better decisions and developing ownership amongst your workforce that creates the belonging culture you need.

Most importantly, it means accepting that belonging is not something organisations  can get away with extending only to the groups they find easiest to champion.

To what extent does your belonging culture cover the full breadth of your age range? 

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The Sandwich Generation: Hidden Needs in the Workplace

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Written by Zahara Chowdhury

Zahara leads on equality, diversity and inclusive education in higher education. She has over a decade of experience in middle and senior positions in secondary education. Zahara is author of Creating Belonging in the Classroom: a Practical Guide to Having Brave and Difficult Conversations. She is founder of the School Should Be blog and podcast, a platform that amplifies diverse and current topics that impact secondary school classrooms, students and teachers.

Ageism in the workplace is often an under-acknowledged and yet deeply felt influence on career progression, belonging, development and wellbeing. Early in my career, I was often met with phrases like “age before stage” when I applied for promotions, “have your babies first” when balancing career plans, and most recently the flattering-yet-deflating, “you just look so young.” These comments project assumptions about capability and life stage, often rooted in (un)conscious bias.

But recently I have found myself close to a very particular phase of life, I’ve recognised an aspect of ageism and workplace invisibility that doesn’t get enough attention: the experience of the sandwich generation.

Who Are the Sandwich Generation?

I only recently became familiar with this term. The sandwich generation refers to adults who are caring for ageing parents or relatives and dependent children and grandchildren, nieces and nephews. It is a role and phase that people find themselves in and to me, a role and phase that we are unprepared for and do not necessarily imagine ourselves in as we age.  According to recent UK research, there were an estimated 1.4 million “sandwich carers” aged 16-64 between 2021 and 2023—people juggling dual caring responsibilities. Around half of these were aged between 45 and 64. 

When we look at the workforce more broadly, about one in three workers in the UK is aged 50 or over, a figure that reflects changing demographics and longer working lives. 

Caring for Ageing Parents: Nuances Often Missed

Caring for a parent with declining health, or simply through the aging process, is not just about practical tasks. It’s emotional and exhausting work. In my experience, unlike caring for a toddler (who grows and develops with you), looking after a parent often means mourning the loss of who they were, even as you help them with the fundamentals of daily life:

  • Helping them eat, walk, or bathe.
  • Navigating digital systems—especially healthcare—when “online” is an alien concept for them.
  • Managing the emotional shift from being cared for, to being the carer.
  • Coping with the mental, physical and emotional health decline that often accompanies ageing and illness.

These aren’t small tasks—they are intensely personal, triggering, time-consuming and emotionally draining responsibilities that are often invisible and unacknowledged at work.

What Sandwich Caregiving Looks Like Day-to-Day

Right now, I do not find myself in this generation, however from my observations and conversations, this caregiving reality doesn’t exist in isolation—it intertwines with modern work expectations:

  • High-demand jobs that leave little room for care breaks.
  • The tug-of-war between career aspirations and care commitments.
  • The current confusion and blur between working from home, hybrid working, working in the office, emails in the evenings, ‘managing your own workload’, which doesn’t often take into account the ‘homeload’
  • Guilt over saying “no” — whether to extra hours at work, social outings, or even rest.
  • Juggling care for children, grandchildren, nephews or nieces and ageing relatives.
  • Being interpreters of technology, healthcare systems and cultural norms for older relatives.

And unlike the standardised support often afforded to new parents (paid parental leave, flexible hours, visibility of care needs), care for older dependents tends to be less recognised, less supported, and much more assumed to be “just part of life.”*

*I am fully aware that support for new parents has a long way to go, however relative to the support for carers and the topic of this article, it is miles ahead.

Cultural Layers: A Personal Reflection

Being South Asian, I’ve been acutely aware of the cultural dynamics of caregiving:

  • Bilingualism has been a strength—flipping between English and Punjabi while navigating health systems, care plans and cultural expectations.
  • Convincing elders (and wider family) that healthcare systems aren’t to be feared—especially in the face of longstanding racial inequities—adds an extra cognitive and emotional burden.
  • Explaining to friends from other backgrounds why care homes aren’t just “a solution”, but often conflict with deeply held values about family, faith and community.

For many in my community, caregiving is not simply a logistics challenge—it’s a moral and familial duty. Saying older adults “need family, not outsiders” is not just cultural pride—it’s a lived priority and a core feature of love, respect and duty. 

Why This Matters in the Workplace

We talk about supporting new parents in the workplace, which is vital. But we rarely talk about supporting carers of older adults, even though their needs are equally pressing:

  • Longer working hours are being expected while caregiving demands rise.
  • Compassionate leave policies typically offer 3–5 days—but that barely scratches the surface of extended medical appointments, hospital stays, or full-time care needs.
  • Older carers may not ask for help—they were raised to keep their heads down and get on with life.
  • The toll—loneliness, stress, overwhelm—can become normalised, unspoken, and unseen.

These are professionals who are burning the candle at four ends: their careers, their children, their parents, and often their grandchildren too.

What Employers Can Do

As we reimagine talent strategies, cultures of belonging, and retention plans, we must:

  • Expand caregiving support beyond newborn and ‘early years’ parental leave.
  • Offer accessible flexible working, without stigma, for all lived experiences, particularly those of care givers. 
  • Recognise caregiving as a legitimate and diverse need—not a personal burden to be hidden.
  • Support wellbeing programmes through a lens of multiculturalism, cultural intelligence and multi-generational stress.

The sandwich generation is a caring generation, too—often unseen and rarely discussed. I am guilty of the latter too, ironically, until it has impacted my own lived experiences. Creating cultures of belonging means seeing these employees, understanding their lives outside of work, and acting with policies that genuinely meet the full spectrum of caregiving realities.


Empathy Week 2026: My Culture, Your Culture, Our Culture

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Written by Hannah Wilson

Founder and Director of the Belonging Effect (formerly Diverse Educators).

My Culture, Your Culture, Our Culture

Culture is more than traditions, food, language, or clothing. It is the story of who we are and where we come from. It shapes our values, our beliefs, the way we see the world, and how we connect with others. During Empathy Week, the theme “My culture, your culture, our culture” reminds us that understanding culture is not just about learning facts – it is about learning empathy.

Celebrating Your Own Culture

Celebrating your own culture is important because it helps you understand yourself. Your culture carries the experiences of your family, ancestors, and community. It gives you a sense of identity and belonging. When you recognise and value your culture, you gain confidence in who you are and where you come from.

For many people, culture is also a source of strength. Traditions, celebrations, and shared values can provide comfort during difficult times and joy during happy ones. They remind us that we are part of something bigger than ourselves. When we celebrate our culture, we honour the sacrifices, struggles, and achievements of those who came before us.

Celebrating your own culture also helps prevent it from being forgotten. In a fast-changing world, traditions and languages can easily fade away. By sharing stories, practising customs, and passing them on to younger generations, we keep culture alive. This is especially important for cultures that have been marginalised or misunderstood. Pride in one’s culture can be a powerful act of resilience.

Celebrating Other People’s Cultures

While celebrating your own culture helps you understand yourself, celebrating other people’s cultures helps you understand the world. Every culture has its own history, values, and ways of expressing meaning. When we take the time to learn about them, we broaden our perspectives.

Celebrating other cultures builds empathy. It allows us to step outside our own experiences and see life through someone else’s eyes. This understanding reduces stereotypes, fear, and prejudice. Instead of focusing on differences as barriers, we begin to see them as opportunities to learn.

Respecting and celebrating other cultures also creates more inclusive communities. When people feel that their culture is acknowledged and valued, they feel seen and accepted. This sense of belonging strengthens relationships and encourages cooperation. It reminds us that diversity is not a weakness but a strength.

Our Shared Culture

When we celebrate both our own culture and the cultures of others, we begin to create our culture – a shared space built on respect, curiosity, and understanding. This shared culture does not erase individual identities. Instead, it connects them.

“Our culture” is found in moments of listening, sharing, and standing up for one another. It is present when we celebrate cultural festivals together, learn new languages or traditions, and challenge discrimination. It is built when we choose kindness over judgement and curiosity over assumptions.

In a globalised world, our lives are increasingly connected. Schools, workplaces, and communities are made up of people from many different backgrounds. Learning to appreciate both our differences and our similarities helps us live together more peacefully and respectfully.

Why It Matters

Celebrating culture – your own and others’ – is important because it builds empathy. Empathy allows us to understand feelings, experiences, and perspectives that are different from our own. It encourages compassion and reminds us of our shared humanity.

When we value culture, we value people. And when we value people, we create a world that is more inclusive, respectful, and kind.

Empathy Week reminds us that while we may come from different cultures, we all share the same need to be understood, respected, and accepted. By celebrating my culture, your culture, and our culture, we take a step closer to a more empathetic world.

Find out more and register your school to be part of Empathy Week 2026 here.


What Makes People Stay Working in a School?

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Written by Hannah Wilson

Founder and Director of the Belonging Effect (formerly Diverse Educators).

Schools are more than buildings where learning happens. They are communities shaped by the people who work within them. While recruitment is vital, the real measure of a successful school is not just who it attracts – but who it keeps. People stay in schools where they feel valued, supported, developed, and able to belong as their whole selves.

Creating this kind of environment requires intentional action across recruitment, development, and retention, underpinned by a commitment to diversity, inclusion, equity, and a genuine culture of belonging.

Recruitment: Attracting People Who Can Thrive

Recruitment is often the first experience someone has of a school’s culture. It sends a powerful message about who is welcome and who belongs.

Inclusive recruitment starts with equitable processes. Job descriptions that focus on essential skills rather than narrow experiences, transparent pay structures, and flexible working options all help to widen the pool of applicants. When schools actively challenge bias in recruitment – through diverse interview panels, structured questioning, and clear criteria – they create fairer opportunities and stronger teams.

Representation also matters. A diverse workforce brings broader perspectives, lived experiences, and role models for pupils. Schools that value diversity are clear about it in their recruitment messaging, policies, and practice – not as a tick-box exercise, but as a strength that enriches learning and working life for everyone.

Crucially, recruitment should be about values alignment, not conforming to fit in. People are more likely to stay when they are hired for who they are and what they bring, not for how closely they match a preconceived mould.

Development: Investing in People, Not Just Roles

People stay in schools where they can grow. Professional development is not simply about compliance or career progression – it is about feeling invested in and trusted.

High-quality development opportunities should be accessible and equitable. This means ensuring that part-time staff, support staff, early career colleagues, and those from underrepresented groups all have access to meaningful training, mentoring, and leadership pathways. When development is uneven, so too is retention.

An inclusive approach to development recognises that people learn and progress differently. Coaching, peer collaboration, reflective practice, and flexible CPD pathways allow individuals to build confidence and capability in ways that suit their needs and aspirations.

Development also includes emotional and professional support. Schools are demanding environments, and staff wellbeing matters. Leaders who prioritise workload management, psychological safety, and open communication create spaces where people feel able to ask questions, make mistakes, and learn – key ingredients for long-term commitment.

Retention: Creating Reasons to Stay

Retention is not achieved through loyalty alone; it is earned through daily experiences.

People stay in schools where they feel respected and heard. Inclusive workplaces actively seek staff voice, involve colleagues in decision-making, and respond thoughtfully to feedback. When people believe their perspectives matter, they are more likely to remain engaged and committed.

Equitable processes play a critical role in retention. Fair appraisal systems, transparent progression routes, and consistent approaches to performance management build trust. When staff see fairness in how decisions are made – about opportunities, recognition, or challenge – they are more likely to feel secure and valued.

Belonging is perhaps the most powerful factor of all. A culture of belonging goes beyond diversity policies; it is felt in everyday interactions. It shows up in how meetings are run, how differences are respected, how conflict is handled, and how success is celebrated. Belonging means people do not feel they have to hide parts of themselves to succeed.

Leadership and Culture: The Thread That Connects It All

Leadership is the golden thread running through recruitment, development, and retention. Inclusive leadership is intentional, reflective, and values-driven. It recognises power, challenges inequity, and models behaviours that others can trust.

Leaders set the tone for whether a school is a place people endure or a place they choose to stay. When leaders demonstrate empathy, fairness, and accountability, they help create a culture where people feel safe, motivated, and proud to work.

Importantly, inclusion and belonging are not static goals. They require ongoing learning, honest conversations, and a willingness to adapt. Schools that embrace this journey openly send a clear message: everyone matters here.

A School People Want to Stay In

People stay working in schools where they feel connected to purpose, supported in practice, and recognised as individuals. When recruitment is inclusive, development is equitable, and retention is driven by belonging, schools become places where staff can flourish – professionally and personally.

In building diverse teams, inclusive workplaces, and fair systems, schools do more than retain staff. They create communities that reflect the values they aim to instil in their pupils: respect, opportunity, and belonging for all.


Creating Psychological Safety in Schools: Building Trust for Pupils, Staff, and Parents

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Written by Hannah Wilson

Founder and Director of the Belonging Effect (formerly Diverse Educators).

In a world that is constantly changing, schools are being asked to do more than ever before. They are not just places of learning, but communities where young people grow, adults work, and families connect. Yet one essential ingredient often gets overlooked: psychological safety – the sense that it is safe to speak up, make mistakes, ask questions, and be yourself without fear of ridicule or punishment.

Coined by Harvard researcher Amy Edmondson, the term “psychological safety” refers to an environment where people feel respected, included, and confident that their voices matter. While the concept emerged from studies of workplace teams, its relevance to education is profound. Schools that nurture psychological safety for pupils, staff, and parents create the conditions for deeper learning, stronger relationships, and healthier wellbeing across the community.

Psychological Safety for Pupils: A Foundation for Learning

For pupils, learning inherently involves risk – the risk of being wrong, of not understanding, of standing out. When students feel unsafe to fail or to speak up, they disengage, hide their struggles, or act out. When they feel safe, they take intellectual risks, collaborate, and grow.

How schools can build it:

  • Normalise mistakes as part of learning: Teachers who model vulnerability (“I don’t know the answer – let’s find out together”) show that uncertainty is not weakness, but curiosity in action.
  • Encourage voice and choice: Giving pupils real opportunities to influence classroom norms, projects, or school decisions signals respect for their perspective.
  • Respond to behaviour with empathy: Instead of “What’s wrong with you?”, try “What’s happened for you?”. Trauma-informed approaches remind students that they are seen and supported, not judged.
  • Celebrate diverse identities and stories: Representation in curriculum, displays, and classroom discussions communicates that every background and identity belongs.

When pupils feel safe, they do not just learn better – they thrive. They are more resilient, more engaged, and more able to take the healthy risks that learning demands.

Psychological Safety for Staff: The Heart of a Healthy School Culture

Teachers and school staff are the emotional climate-makers of a school. Yet education can be high-pressure, high-stakes, and emotionally demanding. When staff feel psychologically unsafe – afraid to admit mistakes, speak up about workload, or try new approaches – creativity and wellbeing suffer.

Building safety for staff means:

  • Leadership that listens: School leaders set the tone by asking for honest feedback and responding constructively. Phrases like “What do you need?” or “What would make this better for you?” open doors.
  • Permission to be human: Staff who can talk openly about stress, uncertainty, or failure model the same authenticity we want for students.
  • Collaborative problem-solving: Rather than top-down directives, invite co-creation. Involve staff in shaping policies, curriculum, and wellbeing initiatives.
  • Psychological safety in meetings: Encourage questions and divergent views without fear of reprisal. Recognise contributions and credit effort, not just outcomes.

A psychologically safe staff culture fuels innovation, trust, and retention. As one teacher put it: “When I know I am trusted, that I can speak honestly and still be respected, I do my best work.”

Psychological Safety for Parents and Carers: Strengthening the School-Home Partnership

Parents and carers are essential partners in children’s education. But they too need to feel that they can approach the school without fear of judgment or dismissal. When parents feel psychologically unsafe – worried they will be labelled as “difficult” or “uninvolved” – communication breaks down, and pupils lose out.

Ways to build parental safety:

  • Welcome curiosity, not compliance: Encourage questions and conversations rather than expecting silent agreement.
  • Make communication two-way: Use surveys, listening sessions, or informal coffee mornings where parents can speak freely.
  • Acknowledge emotions: School issues can trigger strong feelings – about fairness, inclusion, or a child’s needs. A calm, empathic response goes a long way: “I can see this matters to you; let’s explore it together.”
  • Be transparent: Clear explanations of decisions, policies, and next steps reduce uncertainty and build trust.

When parents feel valued as partners rather than judged as outsiders, collaboration deepens – and the child benefits most.

Practical Strategies for a Whole-School Approach

Creating psychological safety isn’t a one-off initiative – it is a cultural commitment. Here are some practical steps schools can take to embed it across the community:

  • Set shared values and norms: Make “respect”, “listening”, and “learning from mistakes” explicit cultural pillars.
  • Model it from the top: Leaders who admit their own learning moments signal that vulnerability is safe.
  • Train for empathy and communication: Provide staff development on trauma-informed practice, restorative conversations, and active listening.
  • Measure what matters: Use anonymous surveys or student voice groups to gauge how safe people feel – and act on the findings.
  • Create visible reminders: Displays or messages around the school that celebrate kindness, courage, and belonging reinforce the norm.

The Payoff: Belonging, Growth, and Flourishing

When psychological safety is strong, schools transform. Pupils engage more deeply. Staff collaborate more freely. Parents and carers trust more fully. Challenges still arise – but they are faced with honesty and compassion, not fear or blame.

At its heart, psychological safety is about human connection. It is about creating the kind of school where everyone – whether they are five or fifty – feels that they matter, that their voice counts, and that they can grow without fear.

As one headteacher put it:

“We can’t expect children to take learning risks if the adults around them aren’t allowed to take emotional ones.”

So let’s build schools, colleges and trusts where everyone can speak up, be heard, and belong. Creating psychological safety is not a luxury – it is the foundation of a thriving school. When we get it right – for pupils, staff, and parents/ carers – trust, wellbeing and learning all manifest and become embedded in the culture.


Sanctuaries of Inclusion & Incubators of Innovation!

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Written by Laura McPhee

Laura McPhee is Director of Education at University Schools Trust. Prior to this, Laura was an experienced headteacher. She has a proven track record of leading transformational change management and successful school improvement journeys across London. Laura is a facilitator for the National Professional Qualification facilitator for Headship (NPQH) and a School Improvement consultant. She holds a number of trustee positions and enjoys guest lecturing for ITT courses. She is the author of 'Empowering Teachers, Improving Schools: Belonging, Psychological Safety & School Improvement' and a co-author of 'Tackling Poverty and Disadvantage in Schools.'

I’m sitting at the back of the teacher training induction session, pretending to read the welcome pack, when a large imposing figure appears at the front. He thanks us all for coming and quickly moves on to a lengthy monologue, warning us of the perils that lie ahead. He informs us in no uncertain terms, that training to be a teacher will be the most challenging thing we’ll ever have to do.

‘Hmmm. Doubt that. I’ve beaten cancer twice,’ says a jolly voice next to me, beaming.

I’ve been hiding in the back row with the other ‘mature’ students – who, as it turns out, are not so mature after all. The beaming voice is Kate, who like me, has a healthy disregard for rules. We become fast friends and slope off for coffee.

But the introductory ‘talk’, with hints of a dark reckoning, is still ringing in my ear. I thought this was the beginning of a new adventure, so why did it already feel like a zero-sum game?

I was yet to realise that the well-meaning individual, terrifying us all into submission that day, was in fact preparing us for the high stakes career that lay ahead.

As educators, we champion accountability. But accountability in the absence of psychological safety, can stifle innovation, limit progress and encourage poor behaviours.

I was lucky. I was a quick learner and, for the most part I was surrounded by exceptional teams and leaders who were extraordinarily generous with their expertise and professional support. But that hasn’t always been the case.

The evidence base suggests I’m not alone.

I would bet my mortgage that you, or someone you know, has at one time or another been worried about expressing their opinion at work for fear of reprisal. Perhaps you’ve thought twice about sharing a concern or idea? Or were afraid to ask a question? Maybe you’ve faced unfair criticism, chastisement or social exclusion.

Perhaps you’ve had to battle systemic barriers in the workplace?

The sector at large has been impacted. In a profession that is high stakes, a lack of psychological safety has, at times, resulted in exclusionary practice. This is amplified when weak education policy creates perverse incentives. For example, through ‘off – rolling’ or exclusionary practice around admissions.

We’re also seeing a direct correlation between staff engagement and pupil engagement. Unsurprisingly, when staff feel trusted, purposeful and supported. So do pupils.

However, research shows that our sense of belonging isn’t evenly distributed, with disadvantaged pupils and Black pupils reporting significantly lower levels of inclusivity. (Jerrim, 2025).

There’s much debate across the sector about what it means to belong, yet too often a crucial part of the conversation is overlooked. Psychological safety is the missing part of the puzzle for many pupils, parents and educators.

Professor of leadership and management, Amy Edmonson describes psychological safety as the ability to share concerns, ask questions and provide supportive challenge, without fear of reprisal.

Let’s be clear, this is a well-researched field, with a robust evidence base that points to the benefits of psychological safety across industries.

Research shows that organisations with the highest levels of psychological safety are more resilient and innovative. They perform better than others.

When we remember we’re people first, professionals second; we can connect the dots. Higher levels of psychological safety positively impact staff retention and productivity.

Remarkably, there’s very little information for school leaders about how to practically apply the principles of psychological safety. And yet, there has never been a more urgent need to consider the psychological safety and belonging for staff and pupils.

Hence my research in this area was borne out of personal and professional frustration…

Whilst cross-referencing the evidence base, with qualitative data from schools and universities nationally that have strong cultures, recurring themes began to emerge. This took the form of 10 pillars, or areas of school strategy that we want to ensure are underpinned by psychological safety to foster inclusivity:

  1. Leading with purpose
  2. Creating a culture of belonging
  3. Cognitive diversity
  4. Learning from failure
  5. Professional Development
  6. Coaching and Mentoring
  7. Distributed leadership
  8. Flexible working
  9. Innovation
  10. Place-based support for the community.

I’ll be using this blog to explore these 10 pillars; sharing research, evidence informed practice and case studies that exemplify psychological safety in schools for staff, pupils and the wider school community.

Frameworks for implementation:

Typically practitioners engaged in developing psychologically safe environments are signposted to Dr. Timothy Clark’s, 4 stages of psychological safety:

  • Stage 1 – INCLUSION SAFETY: feels included and part of a team
  • Stage 2 – LEARNER SAFETY: safe to learn and ask questions
  • Stage 3 – CONTRIBUTOR SAFETY: safe to contribute and share ideas
  • Stage 4 – CHALLENGER SAFETY: safe to contribute and challenge the status quo

Whilst this model prompts some useful thinking, it’s not without its challenges. We know from our own experience that progress is rarely linear! However, we could be forgiven for interpreting this framework as though we should be smoothly transitioning from one stage to the next. In reality there may be very good reasons why teams or individuals stall or need to revisit key principles to deepen their understanding. Of course, it’s also quite possible for team members to be moving at a different pace.

We know that too often underrepresented groups are required to carry out their roles in workplaces that are not inclusive or reflect the systemic barriers that exist in wider society. Yet these colleagues still need to move beyond stage 1 to find agency and autonomy.

For this reason, many practitioners have embraced Amy Edmonson’s 4 Domains of Psychological Safety as outlined in ‘The Fearless Organization Scan’:

  • Attitude to failure and risk
  • Inclusion and diversity
  • Open conversation
  • Willingness to help 

This model reminds us to keep all four domains in mind when cultivating psychological safety. We can see how these domains are intrinsically linked and interdependent.

What might success look like if we’re brave enough to hold ‘open conversation’ and become ‘willing to help’? How can this approach drive more impactful solutions and tangible outcomes when it comes to inclusion?

Furthermore, we know that when it comes to psychological safety, the work is never done. Rather it is constantly evolving. It’s dynamic and shifts based on each new interaction and or shared experience…

“Psychological safety creates sanctuaries of inclusion and incubators of innovation.”

Dr. Timothy Clark


Whose Values Are They Anyway?

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Written by Adrian McLean

Ambassador of Character, Executive Headteacher, TEDx Speaker, BE Associate Trainer & Coach, Governors for Schools Trustee, Positive Disruptor

This blog is based on a provocation I gave to the Practical Wisdom Network to the question of “Whose values are they anyway?” I approach the provocation through the character lens of practical wisdom. 

Walk into any school or scroll through a Multi-Academy Trust’s website, and you’ll see them: Respect, Aspiration, Ambition, Integrity, Courage. Neatly framed, laminated and polished like a branding exercise.

But a question should haunt us: Whose values are they anyway? Who decided that these specific words should shape the daily culture, decisions and futures of an entire community? To answer this, we need to understand the difference between values and virtues and, most importantly, the practice of practical wisdom.

Practical wisdom isn’t just book smarts; it’s life smarts. It’s the ability to do the right thing, at the right time, in the right way, balancing rules with humanity. It’s the skill of making good decisions in messy, real-life situations – choosing what’s good, right, and true, not just what the rulebook says.

Values are the principles we declare we hold, like claiming to value our health. But virtues are the habits that make those values real. If health is the value, then virtues like self-discipline, perseverance, and temperance are what turn it into a daily practice. Self-discipline is choosing a walk over crashing out on the sofa; perseverance is showing up to the gym on the days you just don’t feel like it; temperance is enjoying food without swinging into excess. Put simply: values are what we say, but virtues are how we live, especially when it’s difficult.

Who Decides?

In practice, values are almost always handed down. A trust board. A group of senior leaders. Sometimes, one headteacher with a vision. But how often do we invite students, families, or associate staff into the process? How often do we open the doors to the community whose children will live with the weight of these words? Too rarely. Values are often written in a room by people who will not face their consequences. If that doesn’t unsettle us, it should.

Take, for example, “British Values.” They didn’t emerge from a national conversation; they were written into statutory guidance in 2014 following the “Trojan Horse” affair in Birmingham schools; a moment laced with political anxiety about extremism, identity and belonging. They were less the fruit of civic reflection and more a defensive assertion of national identity.

When one-size-fits-all national values are imposed on a plural, multicultural nation, the risk is that they flatten nuance and erase lived realities.

  • What does “democracy” mean to a young person who has never seen their community represented in positions of power?
  • What does “rule of law” mean to families who feel over-policed yet under-protected?
  • What does “individual liberty” mean when opportunity is unevenly distributed and discrimination silently closes doors?
  • What does “mutual respect and tolerance” mean when some identities are merely “put up with” (not representing the true meaning of tolerance), not celebrated or centred?

From a DEIB perspective, this is not neutral ground. British values often land less like a common commitment and more like a top-down script. Practical wisdom reminds us that to live well in community is not about repeating someone else’s script but cultivating the virtues to navigate complexity, difference and difficulty with integrity.

Values vs. Virtue

Aristotle taught that true flourishing wasn’t about abstract ideals but about virtues embodied in practice. As philosopher Alasdair MacIntyre notes, a value on the wall is just a word. A virtue lived out is a habit formed through struggle and character.

Integrity isn’t a poster; it’s the painful choice to tell the truth when it would be easier to conceal it. Empathy isn’t a slogan; it’s the practiced attention to the quiet child in the back row who carries the weight of the world. Without virtuous practice, values are just advertising, not meaning.

What’s Good, Right, and True?

Schools often claim they are places where children learn what is good, right, and true. But these words are slippery. What counts as good for one community may not for another. What is right in an affluent suburb may not be in a town hollowed out by unemployment. And truth, let’s be honest, is never neutral. Curricula are choices. Discipline policies are choices. Definitions of success are choices. Those choices reflect particular cultural and political traditions, not universal truths.

This is why DEIB cannot be an “add-on.” If our values exclude or silence the lived experiences of children from different racial, cultural, religious, or socioeconomic backgrounds, they are not values. They are exclusions dressed up in nice fonts. Belonging is not assimilation into someone else’s values; it is co-creating values that are genuinely shared.

Flourishing. Defined by Whom?

Too often, the system narrows flourishing to one measure: exam results. Grades are the currency of human worth, but here’s the paradox: the system itself is designed to prevent everyone from “succeeding.” Significant numbers of children will always be labelled “below standard” because that’s how exams are normed. The Department for Education’s media guidance is instructive:

  • If results go up, its proof policy has raised standards.
  • If results go down, its proof policy has raised standards.

A neat trick. But let’s be clear: nobody becomes better at maths simply by sitting a harder paper, especially if they ‘fail’ it. Yet this is the frame in which “flourishing” gets defined: harder benchmarks, narrower outcomes, national straplines.

So if flourishing is defined only by grades, or boxed into compliance with a centrally imposed set of British values, then flourishing is not about children at all. It is about alignment and fitting in. It is about living up to someone else’s story of what counts as good, right, and true.

That is not flourishing. That is conformity.

Pathways for Co-Creation

So, what is the alternative? Practical wisdom points us toward a different path:

  • Co-creation with communities: Values forged through dialogue with students, parents, staff, and local voices; not handed down as final.
  • Virtue in practice: Schools embedding habits of integrity, courage, empathy, and service in daily routines and structures; not as posters but as pedagogies.
  • Flourishing as dignity and contribution: Schools are judged not only on exam results but on how their students leave with the capacity to live lives of meaning, purpose, and contribution to the common good.
  • Local nuance, national honesty: Acknowledging that “British values” are not universal values, but one political frame; opening space for communities to shape how values are lived in their context.

The Dare

So here’s the provocation: Whose values are you really living by?

  • Are they values chosen in Whitehall and laminated in your corridors?
  • Are they values written in a boardroom and handed down like policy?
  • Or are they values forged, tested, and lived in the daily practices of your community?

The dare is this: stop treating values as safe branding. Start treating them as dangerous commitments. Dangerous because they demand something of us. Dangerous because they unsettle power. Dangerous because they might actually make our schools places where all young people, not just the ones who fit the script, can truly flourish.

I’ll leave you with the question, not as comfort, but as a challenge: 

Whose values are they anyway? Are you ready to change the answer?


Leading with Heart: Why Humanity Belongs in Leadership

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Written by Sarah Mullin

Deputy Headteacher and EdD student

When Chancellor Rachel Reeves appeared tearful during Prime Minister’s Questions, it became national news. Speculation followed. Some questioned her professionalism. Others expressed empathy. But what if her emotion wasn’t about weakness or pressure — what if it simply showed that she cared? 

We may never know what Reeves was feeling, and that’s not the point. What matters is how society responded. In contrast, when Prime Minister Keir Starmer’s voice cracked with emotion moments earlier, many praised his sincerity. The double standard reminds us that we still judge emotional expression differently in men and women — and that’s something schools have the power to change. 

In my doctoral research with women secondary headteachers, many shared the pressure to appear composed at all times. One told me: 

“I’ve learned to hide my emotions because if I show them, people assume I’m not coping.” 

Another said: 

“I care deeply about my staff and pupils. But there’s still a sense that to be respected, you have to be hard.” 

This expectation isn’t just unfair — it’s limiting. When we reduce leadership to stoicism, we ignore the relational skills that make leaders truly effective: empathy, emotional intelligence, and care. 

That’s why these public moments of emotion matter. Because our young people are watching. 

Girls need to see that leadership doesn’t require hiding your feelings or shrinking your identity. That you can be strong, successful, and still be yourself. And boys need to see that care and vulnerability aren’t weaknesses — they are part of responsible, emotionally mature leadership. 

In schools, we have the chance to model a broader, healthier version of what leadership looks like — not just in what we say, but in how we lead. Staff and students alike benefit from environments where humanity is welcomed, not hidden. 

Let’s create a culture where showing heart doesn’t undermine leadership — it defines it.


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